Jim Rohn once said: “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with” and he was right. Often times people will feel that they have been dealt a shitty hand in life and that it is not going the way they want it to. Have these people ever stopped to think about who they spend all their time with? Well, you are the company that you keep.
If you have out with five losers that are always complaining, always down on their luck, always blaming the next man for their problems, guess who the sixth loser is? There comes a point where you have to take personal responsibility and reevaluate who you are giving your time to. People that have no goals or ambitions in life tend to drag everyone else down with them.
If you have even the slightest desire to make a change for the better in your life, normally your friends should support you and possibly even help. More than likely however, if these are the people you surround yourself with then they are going to resent you for it. They will think you are putting on a facade or trying to be better than them. This is when you need to start slowly distancing yourself.
So what happens next…just be by yourself in the name of self improvement? Have no friends at all? Well yes, that is exactly what I am telling you to do. You need to start seeking others you can connect with on an intellectual and mentally stimulating level. Get out there and find like minded people who have the same ambition as you.
Inevitably, you may run into posers or hucksters trying to sell you something. You have to do a bit of vetting before giving these new people more of your time. Ultimately, unless you change your social setting to people that share your values, you will be stuck spinning your wheels. You will feel a lack of mentally stimulating conversation and activity.
Social isolation is rarely ever the answer. If you choose not to go cold-turkey in your quest to find a new social group, at least wean off your current one. Is this an entirely honest approach? No it is not, but that’s a decision you’re going to have to make. Which is worse in the long run? Letting go of a few people you didn’t feel compatible with, or spending the rest of your days settling for one group in the name of spared feelings?
You have billions of people out there you’ve never met. You never know what they might bring to your life, or you to theirs.